An Ordinary Age: Finding Your Way in a World That Expects Exceptional

Best Book of 2021 —Esquire?

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"A meticulous cartography of how outer forces shape young people’s inner lives." —Esquire, Best Books of 2021 

In conversation with young adults and experts alike, journalist Rainesford Stauffer explores how the incessant pursuit of a “best life” has put extraordinary pressure on young adults today, across our personal and professional lives—and how ordinary, meaningful experiences may instead be the foundation of a fulfilled and contented life.

Young adulthood: the time of our lives when, theoretically, anything can happen, and the pressure is on to make sure everything does. Social media has long been the scapegoat for a generation of unhappy young people, but perhaps the forces working beneath us—wage stagnation, student debt, perfectionism, and inflated costs of living—have a larger, more detrimental impact on the world we post to our feeds. 

An Ordinary Age puts young adults at the center as Rainesford Stauffer examines our obsessive need to live and post our #bestlife, and the culture that has defined that life on narrow, and often unattainable, terms. From the now required slate of (often unpaid) internships, to the loneliness epidemic, to the stress of "finding yourself" through school, work, and hobbies—the world is demanding more of young people these days than ever before. And worse, it’s leaving little room for our generation to ask the big questions about who they want to be, and what makes a life feel meaningful.

Perhaps we’re losing sight of the things that fulfill us: strong relationships, real roots in a community, and the ability to question how we want our lives to look and feel, even when that’s different from what we see on the ‘Gram. Stauffer makes the case that many of our most formative young adult moments are the ordinary ones: finding our people and sticking with them, learning to care for ourselves on our own terms, and figuring out who we are when the other stuff—the GPAs, job titles, the filters—fall away.

How do we build a meaningful life when the pressure for an extraordinary one is leaving a generation feeling anxious and alone?

• Perfectionism & Mental Health: An unflinching look at how the demand for perfection impacts young adult mental health, and how to find your worth when the GPAs, job titles, and filters fall away.
• The Loneliness Epidemic: A compassionate exploration of why this is called the “loneliest generation” and how finding your people—and sticking with them—is the true foundation of a contented life.
• Beyond Hustle Culture: A sharp analysis of dream jobs, unpaid internships, and hustle culture that asks what fulfillment looks like in the face of wage stagnation and student debt.
• Redefining Success: A powerful argument for ditching the #bestlife and embracing the ordinary, meaningful moments that truly define us.