The Things They Cannot Say: Stories Soldiers Won’t Tell You About What They’ve Seen, Done or Failed to Do in War [9780061990526]

Overview

American Legacy Book Awards Winner

“The harrowing accounts detail the experiencesof 11 US soldiers and Marines who have been ravaged by modern warfare and its psychological aftermath. What makes Kevin’s reporting unique and essential is that it didn’t stop on the battlefield—he followed his subjects home.” — Vice

An important look at the unspoken and unknown truths of war and its impact, told through the personal stories of those who have been there.

In The Things They Cannot Say, eleven soldiers and Marines display a courage that transcends battlefield heroics—they share the truth about their wars. For each it means something different: one struggles to recover from a head injury he believes has stolen his ability to love, another attempts to make amends for the killing of an innocent man, while yet another finds respect for the enemy fighter who tried to kill him.

Award-winning journalist and author Kevin Sites asks the difficult questions of these combatants, many of whom he first met while in Afghanistan and Iraq and others he sought out from different wars: What is it like to kill? What is it like to be under fire? How do you know what’s right? What can you never forget?

Sites compiles the accounts of soldiers, Marines, their families and friends, and also shares the narrative of his own failures during war (including complicity in a murder) and the redemptive powers of storytelling in arresting a spiraling path of self-destruction.

He learns that war both gives and takes from those most involved in it. Some struggle in disequilibrium, while others find balance, usually with the help of communities who have learned to listen, without judgment, to the real stories of the men and women it has sent to fight its battles.

This unflinching collection confronts the hidden wounds of combat and the psychological cost of war:

• The Psychological Aftermath: Examines the brutal reality of PTSD, survivor’s guilt, and the struggle to reconnect with civilian life after the firefight ends.
• First-Hand Combat Accounts: Eleven U.S. soldiers and Marines share their unfiltered stories from the front lines, answering the toughest questions: What is it like to kill? What can you never forget?
• Moral Ambiguity: From the killing of an innocent man to the complex respect for an enemy fighter, these narratives explore the gray areas where right and wrong dissolve in the fog of war.
• A Journalist’s Confession: Author Kevin Sites turns the lens on himself, revealing his own complicity in a battlefield murder and his personal battle with the trauma he witnessed.
• The Power of Storytelling: A profound look at how sharing the “things they cannot say” becomes a redemptive act, offering a path toward understanding and recovery for warriors and the communities they return to.